CONFLICT RESOLUTION & RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT...

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© 1998-2008 Joseph Ravick  and Appropriate Resolutions™

     Anger doesn't have to be expressed.

It is enough to know that you're angry, and know why, and not lie you yourself about it."

 

      Keeping feelings to yourself is not 'repression' unless you pretend, and believe that you don't have them."

 

     Holding on to anger, resentment, and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache, and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth.

 

     Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and lightness in your life.

 

     Once you’ve reached that point, away from the flame, you can then approach the triggering issue with rationality and cognition.

 

     Then, by searching for mutual understanding and applying the doctrine of acceptance, you will resolve and be able to move on.

 

Yes. . . Anger Does Have A Purpose!

     Anger is neither good nor bad (like conflict), it just is! The consequences of un-managed or un-resolved anger however, may have a price in terms of your stress and your ultimate wellbeing (again like conflict).  And anger will certainly affect your relationships when aimed at a ’targeted’ person.

 

ANGER:       WHAT IS IT... AND WHAT DOES IT DO?

 

THE WHAT:  Anger is a physiological, psychological or emotional response to an external or internal stimulus which one perceives (and learns to label) as threatening, frightening, embarrassing, hurtful, frustrating or irritating!

 

THE WHY: Survival, Culture, Communication, Motivation, Psychological protection

 

þ Anger blocks fear; a child returns home late; the angry parent blocks fear through an angry response. Emotions blocked by anger may include sadness, guilt, shame, feelings of failure or unworthiness.     

þ Anger may cover-up those feelings of frustration when one perceives that needs and interests are unachievable.

þ Anger may be a response-tool to a perceived threat when one feels attacked or controlled. Conversely, anger may also be a control-tool to control or frighten others.

 

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