CONFLICT RESOLUTION & RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT...

… Appropriate Resolutions™ for home, work, community, and everywhere in between.

© 1998-2008 Joseph Ravick  and Appropriate Resolutions™

     Next time something happens which makes you uncomfortable, stop. Think about whether, based on your past history, you might be triggered. Do this BEFORE you REACT!

 

Think about what you want to achieve… 

¨ for yourself,

¨ for the other,

¨ for the relationship you want and envision.

 

1. Prioritize which of the above is most important to you in the short term and for the future.

2. Plan specifically how to do what you’ve planned. In planning, envision how you intend to accomplish your goal. Then get started BEFORE YOU LEAP.

3. Review your plans, making sure your projected outcomes are realistic and aligned with your goals), and with who you are.

4. Move forward and act…gently as if walking on eggs.

5. Reflect and review, during and after to ensure that you are aligned with your plan and your envisioned goals. 

 

If you need to...

                                      

        6.     Develop an alternate plan to satisfy your initial 'preferred outcome'.

 

OR,

       Alt 7. Amend what you want and need in the spirit of contributing to a functional and harmonious relationship with the other.

 

       If however you did explode, or if others perceived that you acted aggressively or inappropriately, build a bridge by taking/accepting responsibility for your actions.

 

         This is not giving in. You will be emphasizing the importance of the relationship to you; a consistent acknowledgement for you to give, if it’s true. 

 

  Be mindful and strategic if you care at all about relationships.